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Some advice on your wedding photography:
If the idea of taking thousands of photos on your wedding day seems daunting to you, you're not alone. After all, unless you're a professional model, you're probably not accustomed to being in front of the camera for hours on end. So how do you pose for your wedding photographs to guarantee shots that you'll actually want to frame or put in your wedding album? We caught up with lifestyle and beauty expert Alexis Wolfer, who's also author of the newly released book Radiant Bride, a beauty, diet, fitness and fashion guide to looking and feeling your best in time for your wedding. Here she shares tips from her book on how to look completely natural in your wedding photos.
Find Your Best Side
"No one's face is perfectly symmetrical and while I'm sure both sides of your face are gorgeous, you probably have one you like a bit better (even if you don't yet know it!) Take some selfies (or ask your BFF to help you out) and practice posing with your face tilted in each direction. Once you know your 'best side,' always pose to put your best face forward."
Contour Your Face
"A great picture is all about the angles—and a picture taken with you looking directly into the camera flattens out your natural ones by eliminating the shadows that help to contour your face. While that's not to say you can't look stunning in a straight-on shot, if you don't have exceptionally pronounced bone structure, a slight tilt of your chin (either up or down) and turn of your cheek (to your best side, of course) will help to make your face look more chiseled."
Mind Your Chin
"To make a round or oval face look slimmer, angle your chin down ever so slightly (careful not to create a double chin in the process!). If you have a pronounced forehead, lift your chin up just a bit to create more balance. Regardless of your face shape and chin angle, push your entire face forward a little. What's closest to the camera will look the biggest, so pushing your face forward a bit will make your body appear slimmer. Alternatively, you can ask the photographer to shoot you from a slightly overhead angle to create the angles without you having to do anything."
"The key is to smile like you do in real life—and not as big as possible. When you smile largely, your cheeks puff out and your eyes squint, which isn't the most flattering of poses. Instead, practice relaxing your face, opening your mouth ever so slightly, and thinking of something that makes you happy—like spending the rest of your life with your significant other."
Use Your Tongue
"Try pushing your tongue against the roof of your mouth. This somewhat awkward feeling pose will help to elongate your neck and reduce the appearance of any double chin. Just practice ahead of time to make sure you don't look uncomfortable doing it."
"Tyra Banks popularized the term as shorthand for smiling with your eyes—and it works! You know when you smile how your eyes squint, the corners turn up, and you look slightly up? When you pose, try to replicate that look, even in non-smiling shots. The result will be a more approachable, happy look, even when you're not actually smiling."
Accentuate Your Arms"The key to posing your arms is to keep them away from your body so they're not smushed against your torso, causing them to photograph wider than they actually are. One of the most flattering poses is to put the arm closest to the camera on your hip to accentuate your waist and slim your arm. Just be sure to tuck your elbow so it's pointing behind you and not out to the side. Feeling too posed? Just make sure your arms are lifted ever so slightly off your body or hold the person's back next to you to conceal your arm altogether."
Love Your Legs"Even if you're wearing a gown that completely conceals your legs, don't forget to pay attention to them. Either bend one knee (even the littlest bit) so you don't look stiff or cross your ankles at your calves to elongate your legs and make your hips appear narrower."
Angle Your Body"Turn your body so it's at a 45-degree angle or so you're facing the person you're standing next to in order to put your body's depth (not width) on display, which, for most women, is more flattering."
Stand Up Straight"Great posture goes a long way in making you look happier, healthier, more fit and more confident. It also affects how you feel: giving you more energy, which you'll need!"
Relax"Have fun, laugh and be you. You want your pictures to capture the essence of the occasion, not to look posed. Feeling stuck and uptight with all eyes on you? Look away from the camera, or have a moment with your love, and then come back to it. Or when all else fails, dance around a bit!"
Advice for couples:
1. Choose to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.
2. Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling. When possible, try to keep your phone off when you're together with your spouse.
3. Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the "currency of relationships," so consistently invest time into your marriage.
4. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage. Remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.
5. Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy. And even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.
6. In every argument, remember that there won't be a "winner" and a "loser." You're partners in everything so you'll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.
7. Realize that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It's usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.
8. Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it's nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.
9. Remember that marriage isn't 50/50— divorce is 50/50. Marriage has to be 100/100. It's not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they've got.
10. Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you've given your best to everyone else.
11. Learn from other people, but don't feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else's. God's plan for your life is masterfully unique.
12. Don't put your marriage on hold while you're raising your kids or else you'll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.
13. Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.
14. Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage.
15. When you've made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, "I was wrong. I'm sorry. Please forgive me."
16. When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly. This will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be rebuilt. You should be quick to say, "I love you. I forgive you. Let's move forward."
17. Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important than your schedule.
18. Model the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up to be good husbands, and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives.
19. Be your spouse's biggest encourager, not his/her biggest critic. Be the one who wipes away their tears, not the one who causes them.
20. Never talk badly about your spouse to other people or vent about them online. Protect your spouse at all times and in all places.
21. Always wear your wedding ring. It will remind you that you're always connected to your spouse and will remind the rest of the world that you're off limits.
22. When you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, say nothing every time.
23. Never consider divorce as an option. Remember that a "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
wow, wow, wow, I don't have words for the experience I had at the new ster-kinekor in Port Elizabeth at the Baywest Mall.......it is a must for all of you to have a go at this new theatre in town. when you walk in, you will see flat screens with power points to buy your tickets, popcorn and cooldrink...... you just need to go to the counter to collect your goodies.
Now, the big choice to make....do you choose the new IMAX Cinema in Port Elizabeth that's 3 stories high with 300 seats that vibrate.....mmmm......
or do you go for the VIP red lounge that serves food and snacks, while you have your feet up, with loads of space? and they cater for the usual cinema for those of us that just want to go and have a relaxed time in the normal cinema with very comfy seets (I might add). Well, I think this new IMAX has put Port Elizabeth on the map!!
I have started a page on my site where I will voice my opinion on some great wedding venues in and round PE. I will also load a few pic's and rate them. Most of the time the people at a event determine the success or not. but we all know a fairytale should have neat pictures - if you get what I mean.. please check it out and give me your input..
My name is Laetitia Pauw,, Port Elizabeth based photographer. I have a real passion for what I do especially when I see the images during our shoot. Nothing is as rewarding as seeing the creativity and memory captured in an image.